I have gotten one question repeatedly from young men. These are guys who liked the book, but they are honestly confused. They ask me why Melinda was so upset about being raped.
The first dozen times I heard this, I was horrified. But I heard it over and over again. I realized that many young men are not being taught the impact that sexual assault has on a woman. They are inundated by sexual imagery in the media, and often come to the (incorrect) conclusion that having sex is not a big deal. This, no doubt, is why the number of sexual assaults is so high.
Laurie Halse Anderson, author of Speak, on the question “Have any readers ever asked questions that shocked you?”
Read that again. Read it again, and again, and again. Over and over guys have asked her why Melinda was so upset about being raped. This is a girl who went to a party with friends. She was thirteen. She had a drink, because everyone else was. And a senior held her down and raped her while she was too drunk to get away.
And guys don’t understand why she was upset.
Read that again and then come back and tell me again why I should just shut up and take a joke when a comedian blows off rape as a big deal, or women’s bodies are casually treated as commodities in media. Remind me why I shouldn’t care about the very real harm that society’s treatment of women and sexual assault does.
i love halloween and fall and everything but WHY MUST THERE BE SO MUCH FUCKING RACISM
there’s also a ton of sexism and homophobia and transphobia
why can’t we have nice costumes and creativity and gorgeous leaves and decorations and food WITHOUT BEING TOTAL DICKHEADS
making fun of your kid for enjoying the things they enjoy is the quickest way to make them feel so completely isolated from you that they are more comfortable talking to strangers on the internet than you about their problems
"The world isn’t fair. Deal with it." - People who benefit from how unfair the world is.
"The world shouldn’t cater to your feelings and needs."- People whose feelings and needs the world caters to.
"This has nothing to do with race/gender/orientation/ability."- People who don’t want to address how their ideology has everything to do with race/gender/orientation/ability.
i want to watch gravity but i don’t want to give any money to piece of shit alfonso cuaron or autism $peaks
my parents are dead-set on going but eugghh this just makes me so frustrated
it feels like every time I admire or trust someone they disappoint me
I make excuses for people but often they’re just inexcusable
the people who are supposed to help me have fucked up the worst
I understand the need for critical analysis of things but I start to drift away from the things I love because I suck at reconciling them with the terrible messages they have
I’m just bad at things. people will call me ‘high-functioning’ just because I’m vocal and even if that whole idea wasn’t bull shit I am so very very far from functioning
I’m supposed to figure out what career I want to have, what path I want to take with my life…in a little over a month. fuck.
Obsession, it eats me whole: Why I Fucking Love Teenage Girls (A Personal Essay from an Almost Adult) ↘
A few months ago, I went to a big family gathering at my grandparents’s house and ran into a cousin of mine. She seemed much older than the last time I had seen her (oh, the passage of time), so I asked her what age she was. She replied, “Oh, I’m fifteen.” And my immediate…
disclaimer: i want attention. i want sympathy. i want company. i want to impress people and i want people to like me. i don’t really understand why i’m supposed to pretend i don’t want those things, so i won’t.